Meet The Parents: Holiday Edition
By: Astrid Perez
With finals, flights to catch, last minute gift shopping and work parties, the holiday season can become a hectic time for college students. There might even be added pressure if you’re invited to meet your significant other’s parents for the first time. The most wonderful time of the year can soon turn into the most stressful time of the year. So before you panic and say no, here are some tips and advice to help you have a joyous time with your bae’s parents.
Educate yourself on the family’s holiday traditions and culture - Before meeting the parents, ask your significant other if there’s any cultural traditions you should know about. The last thing you want to do is disrespect their culture or any traditions they may have.
Dress to impress - Obviously this is not a job interview, but make sure you look your best by cleaning up, styling your hair and wearing an appropriate holiday outfit. For men, a nice pair of slacks and a button up will do the trick. For women, show off your festive side with a holiday dress or even a nice pair of slacks and a blouse will make you shine.
Don’t show up empty-handed - Impress the parents as soon as they open the door by showing up with a bottle of wine (if you’re over 21), a holiday side dish or a bouquet of flowers. A small detail like that will surely put you on their good side.
Offer to help - Rather than waiting for dinner to be ready, offer to help with any last-minute side dishes or setting up the table. Afterwards, help wash the dishes or take out the trash. A simple gesture will let them see your politeness.
5. Don’t bring up political or controversial topics - To avoid awkward moments or arguments, don’t engage in political conversations or controversial topics. If someone else brings up any kind of political talk, kindly remove yourself from the conversation or let everyone know you’d rather not discuss the subject.
6.Don’t participate in family gossip/drama - If you are around gossiping family members, don’t chime in, stay silent and slowly distance yourself from the conversation in order to avoid being embroiled in family problems.
7.Avoid PDA - Excessive public displays of affection is never cute, so limit yourself to a few hugs between your significant other. If you feel the need to kiss your boo, small pecks on the lips is the way to go.
8.Don’t over drink - Psychology major Daisy Ramirez, 23, said a former boyfriend ruined her family’s Christmas Eve party by drinking excessively.
“My family throws a huge party and my boyfriend at the time got trashed, he knocked over the Christmas tree and I had to drive him back to his house,” she said. “He wasn’t allowed to come back for parties and we ended up breaking up one month later.”
9. Send thank you notes - Send a thank you card or even a text message to your bae’s parents complimenting them on the holiday meal and for inviting you into their home. A simple message will have them thinking great things about you long after the holiday dinner is over.
10. Be yourself - Don’t stress too much, have a good time and just be yourself. Your main squeeze already likes you for who you are, odds are their parents will like you just as well.